Lack of sex, and what to do about it.

So, over at my favorite drama llama farm, (home of the bumpy ones, and nesters)  several women have been having drama with their husbands wanting to get back in the saddle again before their wives are being cleared by the doctor for such vigorous activity.  To them I have a simple message.  Get some lotion and take care of yourself! Seriously, you would put your loved one’s health and well being in jeopardy because you can’t wait a couple months?

That said, while sex can take a back seat, you still need to be romantic!  Trust me, she wants it just as much you do, and may feel guilty, like its her fault, that you can’t.  So a bit of romance helps.  And for those of you who make your lady moan and scream with orgasms (and, as you knocked her up, that’s more likely to be you than other guys), remember that those breathtaking moments do a LOT to help build up trust and connection in a woman’s psyche.  Without that reinforcement, you have a LOT of work to do.

Touch your lady.  Constantly.  Pet her hair, stroke her cheek, massage her neck.  Whatever she likes. Whatever touch reinforces that you are here for HER.  That you are still the couple you always were, plus one. That she is still your darling, before she is, mother of your child.

And watch out for the nipples.  If she’s breastfeeding, she does NOT want you touching her there.  Trust me.  I learned that the hard way.  Wanna see the scars?